Because I’m not a supporter of gay marriage, I have been told that I hold a discriminatory opinion and have been asked where my Christian love is. So in response, I ask: since when has loving someone meant accepting everything about them?
Take my aunty, for example. She is a smoker, and I don’t agree with the fact that she smokes. I know it’s bad for her health, and that science says it will be doing her body damage.
So by saying that smoking should be banned, am I discriminating against smokers?
You may say that smoking is a choice, and that being gay isn’t, but to that my question still remains. What about babies who are born with drug addictions because of their mother’s addictions? Or people who are born with a genetic predisposition to developing mental health issues like schizophrenia or depression? If we love a person and believe something to be bad for that person, we will help them manage their addictions or prevent/control their tendencies.
Because true love means wanting what is best for a person.
So, back to my smoking aunty. We as a family encourage her in her efforts to quit smoking, and support laws made to restrict smoking. All because we believe that smoking is bad, due to what science tells us. In the exact same way, as Christians we encourage people to enter Godly marriages and have Godly relationships. Because we believe that these are best for people, and we know first hand that these marriages can be the most satisfying and fulfilling.
This means, for me personally, I get just as concerned about other kinds of ungodly marriage as I do about gay marriage. To be honest, I think it’s a little hypocritical of Christians to be getting angry about gay marriage if they aren’t getting angry about all the other kinds of corrupt marriage out there too. Abusive relationships, resorting to divorce when it’s not working, marring for money or power – all are straying from God’s plan for us and are just as bad for us as gay marriage.
As Christians we should love all people equally, because we believe that we are all equally loved by God. Gays, Christians, transgenders, Muslims, Jews, terrorists, the lot. God loves us all so much that he wants the best for us. He wants to save us from all the confusion, darkness and hurt in the world. To do so he teaches us how we should go about certain aspects of our lives, including how to have a holy marriage between a husband and a wife.
It might all just sound like a strict set of outdated rules to those who haven’t experienced God fully. But it’s because He wants us to live a life that will lead to us spending eternity with Him, because He loves us so much that he wants what’s best for us.